High School dances or “mixers” are very popular today. Their main purpose is to provide a balance between academics and socializing.
Most mixers:
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Take place in schools, which gives them the character of being held in a safe, controlled environment.
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Are usually chaperoned by the host school’s administration, faculty and/or staff (as opposed to Middle School dances, where often times parents act as chaperones).
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Have school-specific rules and regulations – be sure to ask for guidelines if your child is visiting a different school.
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Often have a “closed door” policy, under which once students leave the mixer, they are not re-admitted.
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Often allow students to invite friends from other schools.
Key points to discuss with students:
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Times for drop-off and pick-up. What if your child wants to leave early?
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Who will be attending the mixer that your son or daughter knows? This is particularly important when attending a mixer as a guest.
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Pre and post-mixer reunions/parties. Where are they? Will there be alcohol or drugs? If so, what is your plan?
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Transportation. Be alert for drinking and driving.
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Does the school have specific rules and regulations for their dances? Does your child know and understand the rules?
Key points to discuss with schools:
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Is there inspection at the entrance? Are bags, backpacks, jackets and coats checked? Could alcohol and drugs sneak in via soda bottles or flasks?
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How big is the mixer: Which schools are invited? Is attendance by invitation only?
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Is the school screening the DJ? Are “clean tracks” being played?
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Is there a dress code? No risqué outfits?
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Are there limits on dancing? For instance, are lap dancing, grinding or freak dancing tolerated or prohibited?
As parents, we are challenged to determine the right balance between family harmony and safety. The bottom line is: be an active parent * Don’t just assume * Ask questions * Talk to and guide your children.
